As you can see this is a bit of a heavier blog post today, however, it is something i have seen a lot of lately and something i feel strongly about. After some of the things i have witnessed online lately, its something i would really like to discuss.
When i was younger things like youtube, blogging and social media, weren’t really a massive deal. However, as i’ve grown up, slowly the world i live in has become more and more internet obsessed.
This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
The internet [makes it easier to communicate with people all over the world. It lets us have a voice which can be heard by many also also lets us share our talents and achievements more widely.
However, it also makes it easier for bullying to take place. Cyber bullying has definitely become more popular over the last ten years and it also seems to be getting much easier for people to spread hate online.
Around the world, there are many people right now campaigning for peace. So many hate crimes are being committed all over the world, so much so, that it makes you wish for a world full of people with love and respect for each other. So if peace and equality is what we really want, then why, as a nation do we continue to share negativity and malicious words online?
What is Cyber Bullying?
Cyber Bullying is using electronic communication, so the internet or phones to bully a person. This is more commonly seen in the form of threatening and nasty messages or comments. However, it can also be through the form of:
Cyber stalking, which includes harassing someone.
Flaming, which is basically online fights where nasty words are exchanged.
Denigration, posting words on pages set to make fun of someone.
Exclusion. intentionally ignoring or leaving a person out.
Outing, sharing someones secrets or putting their personal information or pictures online.
Trickery, manipulating or tricking someone into revealing their personal information and then using this against them.
Harassment, repeatedly sending malicious messages or continuously asking them personal questions that make them uncomfortable
Impersonation, pretending to be someone else
So as you can see, Cyber Bullying isn’t always straight forward.
Cyber Bullying is NOT ok.
I will never understand how people think its okay to say hurtful things to another person. But unfortunately they do and more often then not, its their opinion or no opinion. Its okay to have an opinion, but when your opinion is hurtful or disrespectful towards someone, this is when you should learn to stay quiet.
It is 2016, we shouldn’t need to keep saying that Cyber Bullying is wrong. People should know that there is a right and a very wrong way to treat people online. I can’t stress enough how important it is for people to keep talking about this issue. It’s so important that people know they aren’t alone.
It’s so easy these days for people to send nasty words to a person. The amount of hateful words you see scrolling through youtube or bloggers comments is disgusting. There is honestly no need for it. If you don’t like what you are seeing simply click off the page and don’t look again. Simple as.
“well if they don’t want hate they shouldn’t upload it”
No, that is not right, no one asks for hate, you do not need to sit behind your computer and go out of your way to write negative comments towards someone. You are the problem here not them.
If you are someone who finds yourself writing horrible words to someone, please sit back and ask yourself whether you’d be comfortable to read those words about yourself. If you wouldn’t don’t comment.
Putting people down will not make your life any better and if putting people down brings you satisfaction then please go and talk to someone, obviously there is an underlying issue that needs to be solved.
Group chats are a great thing, it means you can contact a number of people at the same time and generally just have a laugh with a group. This time of year group chats are also a great way for freshsers to meet and interact people they will be living with at uni or even on the same course with, However, there are wrong ways to behave in a group chat.
In some of the freshers chats i have been involved in i have noticed that there are some people who like to try and control the whole chat, slowly gaining more “followers”. And then proceed to use their ‘power’ to intimidate others. Which is so wrong.
Correct me if im wrong,but freshers chats are a place for people to talk about getting smashed and living off pot noodles, not a place where people feel too scared to talk in case everyone gangs up on them.
Now in this chat that i was added into there were two girls who seemed to be “in charge”. Someone would speak up about something nasty said by these girls themselves and then the person who was trying to do right and make sure everyone was okay would get hate for it.
It was like no one was allowed their own opinion, especially if it didn’t agree with them. They would then start being nasty to whoever spoke up and people would join in and gang up on one person. To see this happen actually disgusted me.
No one has the power to stop someone having an opinion. If someone is calling you out on your behavior then you need to ask yourself why that is? Maybe you are the problem not them?
I witnessed this cycle of them attacking anyone who spoke about things they didn’t agree with so many times in the space of one evening and saw so many nasty words being shared. It made something that was supposed to be positive and get people excited for uni, so negative.
I honestly don’t understand wh y would you want to give yourself a bad name before you’ve even met these people. There is no point trying to control these chats, they are for everyone to enjoy. Everyone is equal. No one should be made to feel left out or singled out in any type of group chat, it’s just not right.
“I’m being bullied online, what can i do?”
Firstly, please don’t go through this alone. Please tell someone what is going on, YOU are so important and these people being nasty to you, they are the problem not you. So please talk to a friend or family member that you trust.
The good thing about social media these days is there are many websites that have ways for you to block people. So if you are finding it difficult to cope with certain people, block them out. Don’t feel bad for it or worry that it will make them more angry, just block them.
If the words are threatening and they are violent towards you, please speak to an adult and if it’s someone you know outside of the internet and you are scared, talk to the police. Especially if they are bullying you in the form of harassment.
If the bullying is damaging your mental health, please, and i can’t stress this enough, do not shut people out, let people help you. Go and talk to someone. Your mental health is so important.
Finally, If you know someone being bullied, don’t sit back and watch it happen, message then make sure its okay and tell the bullies in a none aggressive way that what they are doing is wrong.
Stay safe on the internet guys and just remember once you say hurtful words on the internet it’s out there forever. You have the ability to spread love and kindness, or you can spread hate. It’s your choice, but please make the right one.
Helpful links for anyone suffering with bullying or mental health issues as a result: